The Cost of Being Low Maintenance As A Mixed Race Person Who Learned to Avoid Being “Too Much” By Over-Accommodating Everyone Else
As a mixed kid, you might have had a lot of emotional needs go unmet – whether from family who didn’t know what to say, friends who couldn’t adequately mirror your reality back to you, or teachers who didn’t know how to handle monoracist comments from your classmates. All of this caused you to internalize thoughts that you were "too much," "needed too much," or were "not enough."
How I’d Help You Express Your Needs, Feelings, and Boundaries Without Questioning If It’s OK to Have Them
Expressing your needs, feelings, and boundaries can be a daunting task when you’ve spent your whole life reading the room and adjusting yourself around it. Here’s how I help my clients do so with confidence and clarity.
Three Questions to Ask Yourself Before You Overcommit Just Because You Feel Like You "Should"
If you tend to say yes to every request you get from your family and friends, only to feel overstretched and full of regret when the time comes to follow through, you probably aren’t slowing down enough to actually check in with yourself and make an informed decision.
In this blog, you’ll learn a framework I designed to help a real-life client be more intentional with their commitments.
You Understand Boundaries - So Why Do You Continually Back Pedal on Your Own?
Find out why you keep saying yes even though your body is screaming-crying no, how being mixed influences these habits, and how you can finally get more comfortable expressing your feelings, needs, and boundaries so that you can build fulfilling relationships without burning out.
The Worst Part of Feeling Like You Don't Fully Belong Anywhere As A Mixed Race Person Is Actually What That Feeling Is Holding You Back From
The worst part of feeling like you don’t belong anywhere as a biracial or multiracial person is what it holds you back from. At the end of the day, you're not getting the connection you want. You're not getting the professional opportunities you want. You're not getting the life experiences you want. Here’s how somatic coaching with me can help.
Two Mental Traps Distracting You From Finding Belonging As a Mixed Person
When it feels like people don't fully understand you or what you've experienced as a mixed person, it's really hard to feel comfortable and relaxed in social situations -- or just in your body in general. And that can feed into mental traps that keep you feeling even more isolated and alone. In this blog, you’ll learn about two mental traps mixed race people fall into and how somatics can help you navigate hard moments.
Feeling Whole as a Mixed Person Starts with Feeling Held
A lot of mixed people try to think their way into wholeness by perfecting their explanation, because it feels like if you can just explain your identity clearly enough, people will finally accept you and you will finally feel like you belong. But in reality, belonging is something that is felt when you feel held. And there are opportunities to feel held in every moment.
The #1 Concern Mixed Clients Bring Into Our Work - Rejection Sensitivity
One of the most common concerns that my clients bring into our work is a deep fear of rejection. That comes from very real experiences, but it’s also keeping you from living the kind of life you want. Let’s change that.