FREE GUIDEBOOK AND VIDEO

The “What Are You?” Somatic Recovery Guide for Mixed People

How Respond to and Recover from Being Misread and Microaggressed as a Mixed Race Person Without Forgetting Who the Fuck You Are

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Inside this guide, you’ll learn:

⟶ 10 different responses you can put in your back pocket for when someone asks “what are you?”

⟶ A somatic practice to soothe your mind, body, and soul and find your center again in the moment

⟶ How to build emotional resilience so that you can keep feeling whole even when people misread or question your racial identity

You die a little bit inside every time someone says, “What are you?” or “You don’t look Black!” or “You’re not really Chinese, are you?”

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You freeze.

You spiral.

You come up with the perfect clapback three hours later.

You ruminate for days on end.

And then your fear of being misunderstood and rejected leads in every situation.

It’s exhausting and you’re just so ready to:

  • Know exactly how to respond in the moment 

  • Stop questioning whether you are entitled to your racial identity

  • Feel completely confident in who you are, no matter what other people think, do, or say


This guidebook will help.

From Ruminating to Resilient — Laura’s Story

“Before working with Raina, I would shut down every time someone assumed I was white. For days after, I’d be going over the interaction in my head. The tools in this guide helped me remember that I don’t have to look like other Dominicans to be Dominican.

Now, I just correct people and move on. I don’t feel like I have to prove myself to them.

If they don’t get me, I know that I will find other people who see me for who I actually am.”

- Laura (Dominican and white)

WHAT OTHERS ARE SAYING

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I can’t promise you that you’ll never be microaggressed again. But I can help you build skills and resilience to feel WHOLE in every room, experience, or relationship you step into.

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Hi, I’m Raina (she/her)

I’m a somatic coach for mixed race people and have helped my clients confidently claim their identity without hesitation, hold their center when someone questions their heritage, and find a deeper sense of belonging with people who see, welcome, and celebrate all of who they are.

Yes - even white-assumed mixed people, even people who weren’t raised around both sides of their family, and even people with other intersecting identities (like being Queer, adopted, or neurodivergent) that make feeling whole and finding belonging hard.

I created this offering because having your identity misread or being microaggressed is so fucking painful. It leaves you feeling unseen, degrades your dignity, and can have you questioning if you are “enough” of your heritage to claim it. 

I’m sharing my best insights on being misread and microaggressed that’s going to help make responding to and recovering from people’s ignorance so much easier.  I hope this guide helps you feel fucking grounded in who you are and helps you to feel less alone in those moments.

See you inside!

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