For mixed race people who feel a lack of belonging in their families
Build an intentional support circle of chosen family in 16 weeks - even if you’re afraid you’re “not enough” or “too much”
A four month coaching program where you’ll learn five core belonging skills that will help you build loving, authentic relationships where you’ll finally feel seen, held, and supported no matter what you’re going through – without shrinking, shapeshifting or pushing to be seen.
Bold
Belonging
Because you deserve a belonging that makes you feel whole.
Your family is “supposed” to offer built-in belonging.
But when you’re mixed, it’s not uncommon to:
Feel like an alien within your own family because you don’t look anything like them
Have your feelings and reality dismissed because you’re “just being sensitive”
Be outright told you aren’t really Black or Chinese or Native because of the way you look, talk, or act
Experience racism directly from the people who say they love you
As a result, you’ve probably spent your whole life reading every room - at school, at work, in social situations - and adjusting yourself to fit.
Over the years you’ve tried:
Bending over backwards, pushing for your family actually SEE you
Feeling satisfied by your relationship with your partner
Swallowing your discomfort when someone makes an off-color remark about mixed people
Contorting yourself to perform your racial identity “right”
Avoiding cultural spaces because you aren’t sure if you’ll be accepted
Overextending yourself because you feel like your value in friendships only comes from what you do — not just from who you are
But here’s the thing:
The skills and behaviors that have kept you safe for so many years are now keeping you lonely.
Real belonging comes from letting yourself be seen — sharing what you’re actually interested in, expressing your feelings, naming your boundaries, and making requests for support.
Imagine…
...inviting someone to join you for an activity YOU enjoy without assuming they won’t like it.
…asking for help putting together your latest Ikea purchase without feeling like a burden.
…having a friend who knows exactly what you need after a hard day
…telling a friend you feel disappointed without immediately apologizing for having a feeling.
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Introducing…
Bold Belonging
In this 4-month coaching experience, you’ll learn everything you need in order to develop a support circle of chosen family in 16 weeks.
The Bold Belonging approach encompasses:
The five core belonging skills to build loving, authentic relationships where you actually feel held, seen, and supported
Coaching on how to find the right people — and how to successfully deepen and maintain those relationships
Embodiment practices that are neuroscience-backed
And ancestral and cultural repair work
→ In your first 30 days you’ll have clarity on the personal and relationship factors that are keeping you from having a sense of belonging, the strengths you bring to relationships, and tangible steps you can take to close those gaps.
We start with a FREE 60-minute call where we’ll assess the strengths and gaps in your current community and I’ll talk you through the types of people you fundamentally need in your circle.
Because the truth is, it’s not about the quantity of relationships you have, but the quality of those relationships and the needs they meet.
From there, we can talk about how we can work together in one-on-one coaching to help you build loving, authentic relationships where you’ll feel seen, held, and supported no matter what you’re going through –without shrinking, shapeshifting, or pushing to be seen.
Inside Bold Belonging you’ll get:
6-Month Subscription to the Mixed Race Belonging Collective:
You’ll get INSTANT access to my online community just for mixed folks, where you’ll be able to attend monthly workshops, monthly coaching, watch practice videos and listen to audio meditations, ask questions and more so you can avoid spirals, stay grounded, and build your resilience - now and for years to come.
Valued at $198
12 Deep Dive Calls:
We’ll meet for 60-minutes every week for two months and every other week for two months. This is where we do the work of practicing the core belonging skills and processing real-life challenges and opportunities you’re facing when it comes to building out your chosen family. You’ll leave each session with something tangible to do.
Valued at $2640
Bold Belonging Resource Vault
A vault containing all the frameworks and practices you’ll need to build self-trust and elevate your communication skills and start boldly, bravely, going for the kind of relationships you need and long for.
Valued at $100
Oh Shit Support:
When a difficult conversation or decision comes up between sessions, send me a voice message for a brief pep talk, grounding reminder, or help organizing what you want to say. Support is available Monday through Friday, with responses within one business day.
Valued at $400
The investment for Bold Belonging is $2600.
Payment plans are available.
Book a free call to start your community assessment, ask questions, and see how Bold Belonging can help you. When you’re ready to move forward, I’ll send you the link to make your first payment.
Hi, I’m Raina.
I’m a mixed race somatic coach with nearly a decade of experience as a somatic-oriented trauma therapist, 15 years as a yoga teacher, and a background in community health education.
I grew up in a deeply segregated town, with ancestry rooted in Africa, Europe, and Asia. Belonging was never easy or simple for me. I understand the pain that comes from being in-between cultures, feeling like an outsider, and enduring microaggressions, othering, and flat out rejection.
My own sense of belonging became stronger when I stopped trying to make myself fit into spaces where I wasn’t seen and focused on building relationships that aligned with who I actually was and what I needed.
I created Bold Belonging to help other biracial and multiracial people do the same thing. I’ve supported well over 200+ mixed people in my career and I can’t wait to help you too!
From avoiding vulnerable situations to showing up authentically in Black social spaces
Before coaching, Kat (Mixed Black) often felt shaky and nauseous when they were misunderstood. To avoid those sensations, they held back in relationships and opted out of Black social spaces, even though they wanted a strong connection to the community.
Through somatic capacity-building exercises, Kat learned to remain more grounded while meeting new people, setting boundaries, and navigating vulnerable moments.
As a result, Kat says “I feel much more grounded in my own sense of self and able to distinguish others' needs from my own. I'm confident that I can build relationships that feel good for me from a place of authenticity. Our work together has helped me feel more deeply rooted into myself and my ancestry.”
Real Results
From settling to bravely taking steps towards more fulfilling relationships
Before working with me, Katy (Irish & Filipina) was already practicing setting boundaries...but then she would often waffle on them because she was afraid she was asking for too much.
I taught Katy somatic and cognitive frameworks that helped her assess her needs and make decisions more quickly, without questioning herself. Katy says this “cracked open a new way to think about” her relationships. She realized that she had been abandoning her own intuition and needs, and gained the courage to walk away from a relationship where she had been feeling unsatisfied for a long time.
You know you need community but draw blanks on how to create it.
You want closer relationships but you’re stuck repeating certain patterns because you’re terrified of being rejected.
Feeling seen is both the thing you most desperately want AND find really fucking scary.
Bold Belonging is for you if…
You’re fucking over trying to convince your family that your identity and feelings are valid.
You have friends but still feel so. fucking. alone.
You want support that addresses the social, political, and historical complexity of mixed-race identity AND the somatic-emotional side of things.
Got Questions?
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We meet weekly for 8 weeks, and then we meet every-other-week for 4 more sessions, totaling 12 sessions.
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Sessions are 60-minutes. If you feel you need longer sessions, we can absolutely discuss that — there will be a fee to reflect the additional time spent.
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Bold Belonging follows a curriculum I’ve developed over nearly a decade supporting therapy clients with relationship issues and mixed race people who struggle with belonging. Inside the 12 Deep Dive sessions we’ll meet for 60-minutes practicing the core belonging skills and processing real-life challenges and opportunities you’re facing when it comes to building out your chosen family. You’ll leave each session with something tangible to do.
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Somatic coaching is an approach that involves learning to track your body signals, learn skills to self-regulate, and more. In Bold Belonging, our focus is on building somatic self-trust — a feeling of safety in your body and the courage and ability to be with what you are thinking, feeling, and sensing inside. Because once you have that, everything feels WAY less scary.
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While I am a licensed therapist in the State of Michigan, Bold Belonging is NOT psychotherapy. There is no diagnosis offered and no “treatment” provided. In Bold Belonging we are building skills — but that doesn’t mean we won’t talk about the emotions that come up around this, your history, or other things you might typically share during a therapy session.
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There is no “right” mix to work with me — all mixed people are welcome here.
You may be biracial, you may be multiracial, biethnic or multicultural, you might be “only a quarter white” or not have grown up around certain parts of your family, you may live in the US or outside of the US, you may be white assumed or “white passing” — I welcome you and whatever words you use to describe your identity.
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As a queer, neurodivergent, spoonie myself, I welcome all identities to Bold Belonging, including those who don’t have mixed ancestry, don’t identify as mixed, or have lived experience of being mixed. What you learn about relationships and identity will support you with any aspects of who you are — whether Queer, disabled, adopted, autistic, and so on.
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You may pay in full [$2400] or you can choose a monthly payment plan.
4-month payment plan: $600/month for 4 months
There are additional payment plans via Affirm and Afterpay if you need a longer payment period.
PLUS, In the spirit of belonging, I have a resource for you if you’d like to call in financial support from your community. Click here for the template.
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I offer Bold Belonging Sessions Tuesdays-Thursdays from 9-5 ET and Friday mornings.
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Bold Belonging is designed for biracial and multiracial people who feel a lack of belonging in their families. You have friends and acquaintances, but you don’t feel rooted in community. You may have also built your whole career around helping other people, or social justice, but in your own life, you feel alone.
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There are optional bonus resources you can browse outside of sessions. I may suggest them based on whatever we’re talking about in your life that day.
What’s actually highly recommended outside of sessions:
1) We will likely co-create a few somatic practices to build your nervous system capacity.
2) And you will want to — obviously — implement the skills you learn during the program in your relationships and real life conversations!
Start Today
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You don’t get to pick your biological (or even your adoptive) family - but as an adult, you have agency over which relationships you choose to invest in.
Inside Bold Belonging you’ll learn everything you need to build an intentional support circle of chosen family.
Book your free call today and let’s talk about how 1:1 coaching could help you build loving, authentic relationships where you feel held, seen, and supported.
