For mixed race people stuck in relationship patterns that aren’t working
Resolve one sticky relationship problem in four weeks
Rescue
Relationship
A 4 week coaching program for mixed race people integrating relationship and nervous system coaching
Because belonging is an inside-out process.
As a mixed race person, you’ve spent your life reading the room and adjusting yourself to fit in.
And yet, after all this hard work, you still don’t really have relationships where you actually feel seen, supported, or like you belong.
You intellectually understand that in order to feel closer to other people, you need be more authentic and vulnerable, but you keep repeating the same patterns like:
Hurriedly saying “yeah, good” when friends ask how you are – and then returning the question before they can ask anything else
Rushing to take care of your siblings crisis-of-the-week because you feel guilty for having boundaries and limits
Self-selecting out of cultural spaces because you aren’t sure if you belong
Over-explaining why it hurt your feelings when your cousin reminds you “you’re only half”
Repeating these patterns isn’t a failure.
It’s your nervous system busting ASS to protect you from the pain of being misunderstood or rejected.
You’ve listened to podcasts on these topics, read the books, even gone to talk therapy, and this all helped you understand yourself better — but if understanding were enough, you wouldn’t still feel so stuck.
If you really want to feel more grounded and able to express your feelings and needs more easily then you need to actually build the relationship skills and nervous system capacity to move differently.
Because when you have this, you can easily do things like:
Express your needs and feelings in your closest relationships without feeling like a burden
Manage ongoing family conflict without feeling like it’s affecting every other area of your life
Finally initiate the conversation you’ve been rehearsing in the shower for the last six months
Ask people who share your values and interests to hang out without talking yourself out of it
Or establish a mutual aid practice for chronic illness flares
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Introducing…
Relationship Rescue
A one-on-one coaching program that will help you resolve one sticky problem in a relationship or your social life in four weeks.
The Relationship Rescue approach integrates:
A customized belonging wounds to wisdom daily practice to help you build self-trust
Embodiment practices that are proven to build nervous system capacity
Relationship skill building in the area you struggle most
And, of course, direct coaching on whatever issue you want to focus on
→ You’ll walk away from your very first session with your daily practice, clarity on what skills you need to build, and your first action item.
We start with a FREE 30-minute call where we can talk all about what you’re struggling with and what your main goal is.
From there, we can talk about how we can work together in one-on-one coaching to help you resolve a sticky problem in your relationships (friendships, family, romantic partners) or social life –without shrinking, shapeshifting, or pushing to be seen.
Inside Relationship Rescue you’ll get:
4 Deep Dive Calls:
We’ll meet for 60-minutes every week. This is where we’ll actually process the real-life issue, I’ll coach you, and we’ll practice new skills. You’ll leave each session with something tangible to do.
Valued at $880
Oh Shit Support:
When you’re feeling stuck between sessions, send me a voice message for a brief pep talk, grounding reminder, or help organizing what you want to say. Support is available Monday through Friday, with responses within one business day.
Valued at $400
Relationship Rescue Resource Vault
A library containing all the resources we’ll use during our sessions and that you can access on demand. Think frameworks, communication scripts, workshop replays, somatic exercises, cultural and ancestral repair tools, and more.
Valued at $600
The investment for Bold Belonging is $997.
Payment plans are available.
The work we do together in one month will give you the tools and the confidence to replicate what we do when it comes to other sticky problems.
When we end, you’ll have laid a strong foundation for anything else you need to do to build loving, authentic relationships, cultivate a chosen family, and finally feel like you belong.
Hi, I’m Raina.
I’m a mixed race somatic coach with nearly a decade of experience as a somatic-oriented trauma therapist, 15 years as a yoga teacher, and a background in community health education.
I grew up in a deeply segregated town, with ancestry rooted in Africa, Europe, and Asia. Belonging was never easy or simple for me. I understand the pain that comes from being in-between cultures, feeling like an outsider, and enduring microaggressions, othering, and flat out rejection.
My own sense of belonging became stronger when I stopped trying to make myself fit into spaces where I wasn’t seen and focused on building relationships that aligned with who I actually was and what I needed.
I created Relationship Rescue to help other biracial and multiracial people do the same thing. I’ve supported well over 200+ mixed people in my career and I can’t wait to help you too!
From avoiding vulnerable situations to showing up authentically in Black social spaces
Before coaching, Kat (Mixed Black) often felt shaky and nauseous when they were misunderstood. To avoid those sensations, they held back in relationships and opted out of Black social spaces, even though they wanted a strong connection to the community.
Through somatic capacity-building exercises, Kat learned to remain more grounded while meeting new people, setting boundaries, and navigating vulnerable moments.
As a result, Kat says “I feel much more grounded in my own sense of self and able to distinguish others' needs from my own. I'm confident that I can build relationships that feel good for me from a place of authenticity. Our work together has helped me feel more deeply rooted into myself and my ancestry.”
Real Results
From settling to bravely taking steps towards more fulfilling relationships
Before working with me, Katy (Irish & Filipina) was already practicing setting boundaries...but then she would often waffle on them because she was afraid she was asking for too much.
I taught Katy somatic and cognitive frameworks that helped her assess her needs and make decisions more quickly, without questioning herself. Katy says this “cracked open a new way to think about” her relationships. She realized that she had been abandoning her own intuition and needs, and gained the courage to walk away from a relationship where she had been feeling unsatisfied for a long time.
You know you need community but draw blanks on how to create it.
You want closer relationships but you’re stuck repeating certain patterns because you’re terrified of being rejected.
Feeling seen is both the thing you most desperately want AND find really fucking scary.
Relationship Rescue is for you if…
You’re fucking over trying to convince your family that your identity and feelings are valid.
You have friends but still feel so. fucking. alone.
You want a space where you don’t have to over explain what it’s like to be mixed, filter what you say, or preemptively apologize for having certain privileges.
Got Questions?
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We meet weekly for 60 minutes for 4 weeks.
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Sessions are 60-minutes. If you feel you need longer sessions, we can absolutely discuss that — there will be a fee to reflect the additional time spent.
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During session 1, we’ll discuss your primary goal in detail, explore concerns and obstacles, learn your customized belonging wound to wisdom daily practice, and identify your first action item.
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Somatic coaching is an approach that involves learning to track your body signals, learn skills to self-regulate, and more. In RR, our focus is on building somatic self-trust — a feeling of safety in your body and the courage and ability to be with what you are thinking, feeling, and sensing inside. Because once you have that, everything feels WAY less scary.
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While I am a licensed therapist in the State of Michigan, RR is NOT psychotherapy. There is no diagnosis offered and no “treatment” provided. In RR we are building skills and addressing one major issue through a solution-oriented lens — but that doesn’t mean we won’t talk about the emotions that come up around this, your history, or other things you might typically share during a therapy session.
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There is no “right” mix to work with me — all mixed people are welcome here.
You may be biracial, you may be multiracial, biethnic or multicultural, you might be “only a quarter white” or not have grown up around certain parts of your family, you may live in the US or outside of the US, you may be white assumed or “white passing” — I welcome you and whatever words you use to describe your identity.
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As a queer, neurodivergent, spoonie myself, I welcome all identities to RR , including those who don’t have mixed ancestry, don’t identify as mixed, or have lived experience of being mixed. What you learn about relationships and identity will support you with any aspects of who you are — whether Queer, disabled, adopted, autistic, and so on.
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You may pay in full [$2400] or you can choose a monthly payment plan.
4-month payment plan: $600/month for 4 months
There are additional payment plans via Affirm and Afterpay if you need a longer payment period.
PLUS, In the spirit of belonging, I have a resource for you if you’d like to call in financial support from your community. Click here for the template.
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I offer Bold Belonging Sessions Tuesdays-Thursdays from 9-5 ET and Friday mornings.
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RR is designed for biracial and multiracial people who feel like they are “too much” or “not enough.” The mixed people who have learned to earn belonging by being helpful, agreeable, or invisible. And the people who want to feel more fulfilled in their relationships and social life.
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There are optional bonus resources you can browse outside of sessions. I may suggest them based on whatever we’re talking about in your life that day.
What’s actually highly recommended outside of sessions:
1) We will co-create a daily somatic practice to build your nervous system capacity.
2) And you will want to — obviously — implement the skills you learn during the program in your relationships and real life conversations!
Start Today
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If you’re tired of feeling driven by your fear of rejection and stuck in the same relationship patterns — your next chapter starts here.
Inside Relationship Rescue Belonging you’ll be supported with relationship and somatic coaching to help you resolve one sticky relationship problem in four weeks.
Book your free call today and let’s get to work!
